Energy Vampires-How to deal with them.
We all know one or two of those people that drain us of all of our energy. You know the type.
Those who create anxiety when they are near, rarely (if ever) listen, and make you feel as if you constantly have to explain yourself. These individuals can leave you exhausted and feeling like you are running out of oxygen anytime you are near them. You dread having to interact with them because you know the encounter will generally leave you feeling worse than before you were around them.
Simply avoiding them is not always an option since they can be members of your family, a partner, or a co-worker; however, there are ways to protect yourself from their emotional energy.
You have probably heard of, and encountered, narcissistic personalities in your experiences.
Narcissists are very much energy vampires, and are malicious in intent, with an aim of harming you for their own personal gain.
Unlike narcissists energy vampires don’t always realize what they do, nor do they intentionally do harm. Don’t get me wrong; some do, but that is more on a psychological level, and we are dealing with energy here.
Energy Vampires may possess several traits that can send your emotions into a whirlwind. They will guilt you, pray on your kindness, involve themselves in drama and gossip, play the perpetual victim, and almost never accept any accountability for their actions.
Your problems are often minimized as they compare them to their own, and they have the constant need to “one-up” you, making any conversation feel like a round of “can you top this.”
They are pessimistic and extremely opinionated.
Energy vampires work with the energy of their emotions and emit it onto others. Reasons for this can be as varied as the individuals, and I will not discuss that here. I want to help you be prepared to deflect their energy and protect yourself.
Here are 4 ways to help you deal with an Energy Vampire
1. Grounding: I am starting here because, grounding is an essential thing for anything we do spirituality or just to keep our head on straight. Find a quiet area (if you can’t go outside and take your shoes off) to plant your feet on the ground. Imagine your feet have roots, imagine the roots going into the ground and anchoring securely into the earth. Your roots are like the roots on a big oak tree, no amount of wind or rain will knock it down. You can take anything coming your way.
2. Protection: We all have a bubble around us and around our aura, but sometimes we may get a hole or two that needs to be mended and secured again. Take a moment to imagine a bubble of white light covering your head and extending down to your feet, imagine it stretching out and radiating 3 feet off your body. If you feel you need extra protection, extend to 6 feet. Your energy is now protected and anything negative will bounce right off.
3. Mindfulness: It is a mental state that is achieved by focusing on awareness of your feelings and thoughts at that moment. Calmly acknowledge everything you are feeling or thinking. Keep in mind they are pulling on your strings with manipulation and triggering negativity. Pay close attention to distinguish what are truly your own emotion, or if you are simply absorbing theirs. If you don’t do this, you will hold onto their energy, and it will remain with you. Don’t let them get the best of you; acknowledge it to yourself and remember it is not yours to hold on to, nor do you want it.
4. Set Boundaries: When you set boundaries you, will put up walls to deflect any negative comments or opinions directed your way. Setting clear boundaries for their behavior with you will help limit their negative impact and hold them accountable for their actions. This will help you walk away unaffected, and the consequences of their behavior will begin to affect them instead.
5. Cleanse: Take a step outside imagine the air is purifying you and lifting any energy away. Take a shower or bath. You can also burn some sage, spray some lavender or Florida Water.
We hope this has been some help to you!
Lisa and Pam
Spirited Encounters